Here's my situation.  Before I was born (in 1975), my father had 3 sons; he divorced his wife, married my mother and had me a few years later.  After my father had moved out of his first home and left his kids, the 2 older sons began molesting and raping the youngest son.  I just found about this because the youngest son's wife recently died and he was spilling his heart out to me.  I was shocked, to say the least, because I really like the other 2 brothers.  However, they abused my sibling for over 10 years, well into their adulthood.  I was molested as well and I cannot remember who it was, but I have flash backs and I wonder if these 2 sons violated me when they would come to stay at our house for extended periods.  I brought the whole issue up to my dad who has known about this for 2 years and I told him that I didn't want to be around the 2 sons anymore.  I don't believe child molesters can be rehabilitated.  Maybe close-minded on my part but I just can't accept that they can.  My dad's response was to break out into southern baptist religion and tell me that God has forgiven them and the I and the abused son need to just forgive the other two and get on with our lives and not separate ourselves from them. 

I have to say that I believe we should be able to forgive everyone, however,  I really don't want to at this point.  I'm angry.  I'm angry for my brother and for being trusting of 2 people who are monsters.  Thank God, they can't have kids and that I don't have any to be around them.  So when does immediate, absolute forgiveness, unconditional forgiveness become a cop-out because you are in denial and don't want to deal with the situation?  That is how I feel that my father is dealing with the situation.  What do you think?